(I wrote this back in December 2020 for the Young Catholic Woman .)
From poetry to music, from expressing
myself in a journal to playing with word puzzles, the written and spoken word
are my favourite forms of communication. As might be imagined, when I began to
sense Our Lord tugging me toward silence, I initially resisted. It was
uncomfortable. I feared that by being silent, Our Lord might not be aware of
what I needed.
However, silence revealed this truth:
better hearing Him speaking brings me awareness of myself and of what I need.
As Saint Paul says in Romans 8:26-27, we do not know what we need—it is the
Spirit that speaks on our behalf, interceding for us. When I began to explore
the uncountable ways Our Lord speaks to me—through scripture, nature, the
witness of the lives of the saints—it became easier to understand and be
comfortable with silence.
As I continued to learn this language of
silence, I moved to France for a year. It was here that God concretely taught
me the immense power of silence. The day I arrived, I remember feeling disoriented
while searching for the train station. I did not have a good cell signal and
could not express myself in French. A woman noticed me dragging my bags and
came to help. We could not speak to each other because, just as I couldn’t
speak French, she couldn’t speak English. I pulled out my pen and sketched a
train and she immediately understood, giving me a hearty smile.
We walked in silence for the 20 minutes it
took to get to the station, exchanging glances and smiles while attempting to
communicate through both sign and body language. When we parted ways at the
station, I was struck. Here was a beautiful example of the Lord speaking into
my fear of not being heard or understood by Him. This woman reminded me that
words aren’t always necessary to be understood.
This is not to say that silence is always
the gold standard of expression, but the wisdom of scripture has much to teach
about the sacredness of silence. A good example is when our Lord told His three
friends after the Transfiguration, “As they came down from the mountain Jesus
gave them this order, ‘Tell no one about the vision until the Son of Man has
risen from the dead’ (Matthew 17:9). These apostles were asked to carry in
their hearts what they had learned about Jesus. I think, too, of how Elizabeth
hid herself for five months while carrying John the Baptist in her womb in Luke
1:24. This silence was augmented by our Lady’s visit, where both women rejoiced
over the good God was doing in their lives.
It’s also marvelous to reflect on Joseph’s
silence. He speaks no words in scripture, and his actions are born of deep
listening. We read in Matthew 1:19 that Joseph did not expose Mary’s pregnancy
publicly: “Her husband Joseph being a man of honour and wanting to spare her
publicity, decided to divorce her privately .” However, his listening posture
allowed him to attend to the message of an angel to take Mary as his wife. As
Saint Jerome teaches of this saint, “Joseph knew Mary’s holiness hid in silence
a mystery he did not understand.”
Silence has brought order and tranquility
to my life. I no longer have an insatiable urge to be “heard”; my stronger
desire is to hear God. I find that when I am silent, I am more inclined to
listen. Disorder is more likely to arise when I don’t turn to silence—I’m more
likely to blurt things out if I haven’t first pondered my words in silence
first. In such actions, I risk losing my tranquility and taking away my
neighbour’s tranquility as well. In his The City of God, Book XIX, Saint
Augustine teaches us that our souls become ordered and tranquil when we observe
the proper order of things.
Our Lady left us with a perfect model for
ordered speech and silence: “As for Mary, she treasured all these things and
pondered them in her heart” (Luke 2:19). Our Blessed Mother shows us by example
the gentle power of silence, a disposition that keeps the treasures of God
hidden in one’s heart. This pondering in our hearts not only attunes us to
God’s grace and mercy in our own lives, but allows us to become a reservoir of
his grace and mercy for our neighbour. In imitating Our Lady, the one full of
grace, we can learn the blessedness of a quiet spirit, of weighing our words
before speaking, and of pondering everything with a heart brimming with love
for Christ.
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